Posts Tagged "Raising Boys"

Boys are Boys and For a Very Good Reason

Posted by on Aug 30, 2012 in Family | 2 comments

About a week ago, I posted a blog from The MOB Society (Moms of Boys) it made me feel better about my son and how he acts sometimes. It felt normal that he was normal. However, a colleague/friend of mine here in Chicago is a very provocative writer. She is savvy and I love what she writes. Recently she grabbed my attention when she posted, “Boys will Be Boys” is a Load of Crap. Of course, I am intrigued. I read it and had several thoughts to myself. I recall being single or married without kids and saying “I will never let my kids do that or be THAT mom”. Oh, you Remember saying that to yourself too? It falls on the same category of mothers who have only daughters. I like watching moms who have girls who look on with disbelief when they see boys, well, being boys. Karma is funny as I said the same thing after my daughter was born and saw all these crazy little boys. Though, my daughter can keep up with the boys, she was a super active little girl at the time. I then remembered having a conversation with my dear friend who had a boy 3 months after my daughter asking how do I discipline my daughter. “Um, well I don’t, she hardly does anything wrong”. She gave me a smirk. Then my son was born…crawling at 4 months old (if you don’t believe me ask my mom friends), walking at 10 months old, climbing the tables, walls and bathroom vanities at 12 months old. Yep, he was one of those boys now. A monkey, a stinker, and now the Prince of time outs. Going out to dinner with some friends, we were talking about our son and how he tires us, keeps us on our toes, etc. The father said, “Oh, you are like us, you had a girl first. Thinking life is great, she is wonderful, then BAM you got a boy.” Boys rock your world. I love it though and so glad I have one of each to experience raising both genders. Now I consider myself to be a good parent. I have no problem giving my kids boundaries or disciplining when necessary in an effort to change behavior for the better. My first public discipline for my son was at Millennium Park at the Kids Tent this year. I was watching him play with the big foam blocks. There was a block he wanted, but another little boy a tad older was playing with it. He pushed my son aside, but I let it be, the parents both there were not paying attention and I was trying to keep an eye on my daughter too who was at the art table. I look down and my son is biting the other boy. Mortified, I pulled him off, squeezed his cheeks and said, “NO BITING!” and found a place to put him in time out. I went to the parents and asked if he was ok and apologized. The mom told her son that my boy was in time out for what he did wrong. (Her words…) and she said, “I think he was a little shock at what happened” and I apologized again and the dad rolled his eyes at me. Really? I thought to myself. What I wanted to say is my son cannot talk, he has a Sensory Processing Disorder, since he cannot ask for the block that he wanted to play with and your son pushed him aside in which neither of you were...

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